The Magic of Grief

Grief is a timeless and endless emotion because we loved someone timelessly and endlessly. We will all experience grief in our lifetime. How to continue living after the trauma of loss is indescribable because in every instance the circumstances of grief are unique. Even so, there are some guiding thoughts I have discovered that may be helpful in inspiring you to allow grief to coexist with all of the emotions you feel instead of dominating them.

Imagine, you step outside your safe and cozy home one morning into the world. Envision you observe the most magnificent mountains peacefully abiding in a cloudless, cerulean blue sky. The air is crisp and fills your lungs with invigorating breath. You observe colorful flowers, bunnies, birds and fruit trees, an array of natural beauty. You feel many pleasing emotions. Then, out of nowhere, a reckless cavalcade of bulldozers invades and trammels the landscape. You stand there, powerless to affect the scene, terrified and devastated.

After the massacre it is deadly quiet and still. You can barely see what remains because your tears are flowing heavily from your eyes blinding you. You do not know how long you have been standing there in that condition but one day, one morning, you feel the sunshine tapping you on your shoulder and you open your eyes still lingering with tears and you observe a new landscape. The sky and all it envelopes is incredible beyond anything you previously experienced. Now the land is torn and rugged but so much more complex and interesting. Everything is! The mountains are bluer, browner, grayer. The birds are louder and the bunnies have fluffier tails. The scene will never be the same as it once was but miraculously you have a deeper appreciation of what was and what is.

This my friends is how grief coexists with all of the happiness, love, joy and beauty in your life: grief is an element of your life experience adding layers of depth and complexness. I encourage you to consider that grief can be a catalyst in your life to invigorate your appreciation and gratitude for every experience and emotion you encounter. Grief on its own is not pretty or inviting but in its horrible ugliness it possesses a disruptive magical ability to change your life for the better.

In memory of the 24th anniversary of Danny Fiddle’s passing on 01/17/2000

Posted by lindawf1 on January 7, 2024

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